What to Do with the G Spot
Once you've established whether you've got one or not, you need to discover whether you have one that gives you pleasure or just feels a bit annoying. Stroking is usually the most enjoyable form of stimulation.
Sexual virtuosos recommend inserting the forefinger to about the second knuckle and making a 'come here' motion towards the front vaginal wall. You'll need to experiment with pressure and length of stroke to find out what feels best for you. It's important that you're sexually aroused first, and also worth noting that many women say sensitivity varies throughout the month.
Scenario 3 Movie Night
Another form of foreplay we haven't talked about yet is watching pornography together. One of the biggest misconceptions men have about women is that they think adult movies don't turn them on, but that's not true. Whether they want to admit it or not, many women do get hot from watching other people have sex. Before you try this next scenario, you should discuss your partner's feelings about pornography. Just as some women get excited by it, others are repulsed by it. If you get the green light, then by all means proceed.
You ask your partner to join you in the living room to watch a movie. When she's settled in, turn on the video. As you watch the movie, pay more attention to her and to reaction to the movie than to the movie itself. This is good for two reasons. First, women are sometimes threatened by the women in this films, so if you are too busy being interested in her body to look at those women then that lets her know just how sexy and desirable she is. Second, you want to watch for those signs of arousal so you'll know how to proceed.
When she starts to get worked up, you should start up the foreplay. Remember to begin slowly. Have her sit up a little, then remove her shirt so you can give her a back massage. Don't use rough movements, just glide your hands over her back like feathers floating on the wind. Blow on the back of her neck if it's one of her erogenous zones. Move your hands forward more to massage the sides of her breasts, as well as her shoulders and arms. Start kissing her neck, her earlobes, her shoulders, any piece of her flesh you want to taste. As you're doing all of this, however, don't let her stop watching the movie if it's turning her on. Remember to keep building the sexual tension inside her until you can tell that she's very turned on. Now let her stay on the couch, but you move to the floor. Pull off her pants or skirt while she's still watching the movie and begin stroking her legs and kissing her ankle, the back of her knees, her inner thighs.
When the time is right, move so that you are between her legs. Have her scoot to the edge of the couch, then while she still has her eyes on the movie beginning performing oral sex on her. Flick your tongue in short, quick motions around her clitoris, then move it in a circular motion around the outer part her vagina. If you can hum at the same time, definitely do it.
Remember the humming will vibrate her clitoris and will add even more stimulation.
If you think she's ready, try using your finger or a small vibrator to massage the outer rim of her anus as you continue to pleasure her orally. Continue alternating between different tongue movements until she has an orgasm. Incidentally, if it starts taking a long time or if you get tired, try using an ice cube or popsicle inside of her to buy you some rest time. Also, if she does reach her climax, don't roll away and ask, Now do the same for me or something similarly crude. This time at least should be all about giving to her. If she does offer to reciprocate, tell her it's not necessary. You got pleasure by giving it to her but don't be surprised if she doesn't offer to give you a nice treat very soon.
What You Need to Remember
Well, we've covered a great deal of information in this article, and I think this will probably be the section where you spend most of your time. Still, I want to give you a few ideas to try or to think about as you begin trying some of these ideas and scenarios.
You don't have to try all of the positions. Pick and choose the ones you find the most promising. In fact, you might want to show this article to your partner and let her help you pick out some positions.
Don't give up on any one position too soon. Some people try to rush through all of the positions in this article in one sex session but that's not going to do anything but make your partner tired and irritated. Choose only one or two to try per session. If the first one doesn't seem to be getting results, then switch to the second. Ideally, the two positions should be similar (i. e. both are woman on top or both are rear entry positions, etc.)
Be smart when you pick the time and location of your experimentation. If you have a family, don't try to get your partner to reach orgasm while your kids are still awake or when they're due home at any moment. She's already going to be on edge and that's going to make it difficult for her to free her mind, which is necessary for an orgasm to occur. Also, pick a location that's going to be private. Don't start in your living room or kitchen if you have guests or kids in the house. Don't experiment in public unless your partner finds the risk of getting caught to be a turn on. Otherwise, she'll be too worried to climax.
Don't pressure her or yourself. Clearly, you want to be a better lover to your partner and you want to make sure she is getting all of the pleasure she deserves. However, if you keep pressuring yourself and focusing on how important it is for her to climax, you'll be missing out on the main reason you should be having sex: enjoying one another's bodies. The same is true if you start pressuring her to orgasm. All that will get you is a partner who becomes very good at faking. That's not what you want.
Try things you know your partner enjoys. We all have to make compromises in our relationships and sometimes those compromises are made in the bedroom. You probably won't like everything that makes your partner feel good but keep in mind that she's probably willing to do things to pleasure you that she's not all that happy about either. If you don't enjoy performing oral sex, for example, imagine how surprised and happy she'll be when you give it to her.
Most importantly, practice controlling your ejaculation. Nothing is more disappointing to a woman than being on the verge of an orgasm only to discover that her partner has already finished. It's very frustrating her. If you have trouble, remember that slowing down and changing positions can help. Thinking about something other than sex is said to be helpful, but most men have difficulty doing that. Remember to practice working your PC muscle so you can gain more control over your ejaculations and can eventually even have multiple orgasms of your own.
